Darling, you make my day!

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Oh my love!
You make me happy and alive.
You are always there for me, in good times and in bad.
You have got me addicted.
Your fragrance brings out the energy in me.

On a cold rainy afternoon, I wrap my arms around you,
your warmth soak into me.
Snow brings you even closer
I cant survive a day without you
Coffee Coffee!

I Love You Forever!

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Double Standards

When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a bitch. – Bette Davis

We will find double standards in almost every sector of life, but in my humble opinion, the worst most painful one is between men and women. In this blog I want to share 2 incidents which recently happened.

1. Incident

The other day I finished my training late and there was a sudden downpour; felt like the clouds were mad at someone for holding them back for so long. It was inevitable that I hail a cab, quite relieved to be greeted by a friendly smile. Travelling alone, I make it a point not to divulge my exact address, asking to be dropped off at the city center works fine.

“Oh, I know this place… it’s a really nice area” he said. I could just manage a smile, not wanting to engage in conversation after an intense workout. He had to go on though… persisted with regular questions like; “Where are you from? Where are your parents?  Are you living alone?  Etc.  As usual I answered all the questions and felt bad for not actively participating in the conversation. So I asked him the same questions and he told me where  he is from and that his wife and kids were living there and he regularly visits them. My first thought was, a dedicated husband and father, working far away from home to provide for his family. This thought didn’t last long, because out of the blue he asked me:

“Do you want to drink coffee?”(By the way it was 10:30 pm)
Me: “No, Thanks. I am fine.”
You know, I am looking for a girlfriend. It is DIFFICULT because my wife is not here”
Me: “Oh, that’s so sad. Does your wife have a boyfriend in Iraq? I guess it’s also very difficult for her too, am I right?”
“Oh no, she is not supposed to do that. She SHOULD take care of my parents and children.”

2. Incident

A very good friend of mine Joe and his friends organize “guys’ night” every then and now. Basically they rent a business apartment for the weekend and do guy’s stuff. So you might thing what’s wrong in that. Everyone needs a break from everyday life. There’s no  harm in playing poker, video games, getting drunk etc., right? Oh well I agree with you on that. In their case they even go one step further and to spice the evening they pay women to be their “girlfriend”. According to him they treat those ladies with respect  and  they don’t have to do anything which they don’t like.  In a way there is no difference between him, his friends and the taxi driver.  Few of you might ask me: “Common girl, what’s wrong in that? ”. Yes, I tried to convince myself that this is the new reality. I thought if it’s ok with their wives, why should I bother about it. But the fact is none of their wives know about it and most depressing part is that one of his friend’s wife just gave birth to their first child. While she was in pain and struggling with the changes, he was out there having a great time with some random woman.

Few days later during our usual conversation Joe told that the one of his friends saw the wife of another friend in a club dancing with some other guys. This friend now thinks that she is cheating. I had to stop Joe right there and told him that I don’t want to hear about it and asked him: “It is ok if you guys go out  with other women and have “FUN”,  but as soon as women  do the same it’s a crime?”

Apart from the fact  being sexually active with someone else rather than your partner, while you are in a committed relationship, is strictly against my ethics, let’s focus here on the double standards. Why is it ok for men to screw (sorry for my bad language) someone else’s wife, mom, sister or daughter but the women in their house shouldn’t.

My intention is not generalize men and pointing fingers at them. I have only one question: “Why do (not all of you) you do things which you will never allow or wish to happen to your wife/sister/mom?”

 „What goes around, comes certainly back around”

Daily Prompt: I Pledge Allegiance. Are you patriotic?

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In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “I Pledge Allegiance.

My initial reaction to this question would be to say “no” because the pictures coming up in my mind are of War, Soldiers and a lot of blood. So I thought today’s blog will be a one liner something like: No, I am not a patriotic.

My mind couldn’t rest. These two questions haunted me for couple of hours. I decided to ask my best friend Google about it. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary Patriotic means

partiotic

Oh well this was not a great help. In fact I got more confused because I was thinking about all the people with dual Nationalities. Suppose both countries are competing against each other, which country one should choose? Country of origin or where you was born?

Even though I am no longer an Indian, at least on paper, I was deeply saddened at the sudden demise of the former president of India Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam. It felt like someone in my family died.
When I watched the documentary “India’s daughter”, on BBC, it left me feeling very angry. Words are not enough to fully express my grief and anger. The fact that Indian government officials banned “India’s Daughter” made the situation even worse. Though I am not an “Indian”, I felt ashamed.

To shed some honest light on this, When Austria wins a gold medal in Winter Olympic, I will be jumping around like a child and say: “Look we did it, WE won” :-). I guess what I am trying to say is, we are evolving or progressing to being global citizens.

Here’s another complication. How should we feel about the country we choose to live? In my case that would be Switzerland. You won’t believe how often I say to friends:”…and you people put your money in OUR banks.” or “WE have the best chocolate” etc. While those listening to me, clearly see that I am not of European decent. Still, I choose to speak this way, they accept.

On the other side I don’t consider myself patriotic in the sense that I’d be willing to die for any of these countries. I have huge respect to all the brave men, who fight for us and protect us threats. I personally would never do that, you may call me “Chicken”. There are many ways to express patriotism, I’m afraid I’d be more of a burden, rather than add value – if I joined the armed forces of any country.

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Now back to the original question: Am I a Patriotic? I am considering myself as a citizen of the world and I love my world and I am willing to engage myself in activities which will make my world to a better place. What do you think dear reader? Am I Patriotic?

Concluding today’s blog with a famous quote of Albert Einstein: “Nationalism is an infantile disease. It is the measles of mankind.”

Day 2 – Take Control of Your Title and Tagline

Today’s assignment requires me to edit my Title and Tagline. Saw the mail today morning on my way to work. Till now I didn’t even know about Title and Tagline, funny isn’t it? My first thought was, that I have to change the title of my previous blogpost.

Even though I had a hectic morning at work, some parts of my brain was engaged to find the perfect Tagline and Title. Blogging is new to me and I’ve absolutely no idea in which direction to go. Right now I want to use this platform to share my thoughts and ideas. One day I might blog about traveling or provide information about weight loss and healthy living style. In other words I haven’t defined my target audience yet, so I will keep the tagline blank for a while.

I am choosing Viennese Tandoor Schnitzel as my Title, because these 3 words describe my current situation very well – total confusion 🙂

Viennese Tandoor Schnitzel

Viennese Tandoor Schnitzel

I have signed up to take part in the WordPress “Zero to Hero: 30 Days to a Better Blog” activity. The first task is to create a post thinking about who I am, and why I am here. Two interesting questions, and I’ll start with the second.

Why am I here?

My friends and family would describe me as talkative. I wanted to take my passion of communication to the next level. For more than a year I have been playing with  idea of creating my own digital presence. Then I realized talking is much easier than writing. I don’t have to form a grammatically correct  sentence,  no proofreading is needed , no need to run the spell check  etc.  So I kept on postponing it. Last week one of my best friend convinced me to take the first step.  So I am here. I have zero experience in blogging  but one day I want to be a Hero ;-).

While I’m here, I intend to engage with other blogger’s, share my thoughts and experiences; this inevitably will help to improve my writing skills.

Who am I?

I was born into a traditional south Indian family and grew up in Austria.  Like most 2nd generation kids, born and raised in other countries – I too had to find the right balance between two different worlds and I am still struggling.

If you ask me about my name, nationality, education, job, age etc.. I will be able to answer. I love traveling, shopping, watching movies like all most girls.  Youtubing, FBing, tweeting and #tagging describes my everyday routines.

Who am I – perhaps I will find out more about myself in these writing and sharing experiences…..

since I am not sure about where I belong to, I’ll call myself Viennese Tandoor Schnitzel.

Love failure

When friends get married – in some ways it’s a pleasant experience, a chance to catch up, put on your best clothes and have fun. At the same time painful – especially if you are older and unmarried. I would have loved to be in her place… after all, this was my best friend. Moving on to the better bits, she looked gorgeous, the makeup artist did her job well, simple yet elegant gown, as well as in her evening outfit, a traditional saree.

I left my hometown 7 years ago to pursue better career and to be more independent. It is unbelievable how fast time passes. All the youngsters from back then have now grown into handsome guys and gorgeous young ladies. Once they looked up to me with their wide cute little eyes and now I was experiencing immense neck pain because of constant looking up to them while talking.

Apart from friends, aunts and uncles who I grew up with were also present. Weddings are special this way, and a lot of genuine warmth was there. Inevitably, there was curiousness, and I am sure a bit of gossip – why is Maya still single? Out of the blue two guys asked me: “Hey Maya, why are you not married yet? Is it because of a love failure? Is it because nobody wants you? You should have seen their faces. It was like interviewing some Bollywood movie star. The curiosity to find out what’s happening in my life, the eagerness to figure out more about my lifestyle.

It is sad that some people find more happiness in another’s failure than their success. Besides who doesn’t like to gossip. Like a Diva I smiled back to them and answered: “Oh well everything will happen when it is supposed to happen” and moved to the next guest who was eagerly waiting for me.

Why do people call a break up a love failure? In my humble opinion you cannot fail in love. Be in love or to be loved by someone is a great feeling. We all know the famous quote “If you love someone, set them free.” What I am trying to say is, if you love someone then you don’t own that person. In other words If you truly love someone then you are not expecting anything in return because you are loving someone unconditionally. If you don’t expect anything in return how can you fail?

Obliviously if two people love each other then the next step as we known is commit to each other. According to the Wikipedia a committed relationship is an interpersonal relationship based upon a mutually agreed-upon commitment to one another involving exclusivity, love, trust, honesty, openness, or some other agreed-upon behavior. Like any other contract sometimes people don’t follow the rules and regulations and so violation of the contract results in a break up. If the reason for getting together in the first place was unconditional LOVE, then my friend you haven’t failed. On the contrary you have experienced the most wonderful feeling on earth.

Spread your wings and fly – find your love. Getting back in love is the sweetest way to heal. Once you find your love set them free, they will certainly come back to you – if it’s real and true.