Let’s try to make the world a better place

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14th February, a day dedicated to express love, companionship and passion for our loved once. There are different forms of love. The love we share with our parents, Kids, friends, life partner and of course between lovers. There is no religion or nationality attached to this wonderful day. A pure celebration of Love.

Even though it’s a day for everyone, it’s more celebrated among couples. So all the pretty ladies out there, how did you feel when u wore that awesome sexy outfit you bought the other day? Did you find the right red lipstick? Finding the accurate red shade is devastating. And… Hey… you, Handsome what did you do? Did you buy nice red roses and chocolates? I assume you planned a nice romantic day for your Love from morning to night. Dinner at a nice romantic restaurant which plays nice background music, not too over powering just like a soft silk shawl carried in the breeze. Most probably you had a light Mediterranean meal with a smooth, balanced, velvetly red wine. I know it may sound cheesy and cliché; ultimately I am exceptionally girly and a hardcore lover of romantic movies 😉1in3women

In one way or other we all spent some quality time with our loved once. Unfortunately there is another group of people who might never be able to have this special moment. Who might never be able to express their emotions and try to hide their entire life. I am talking about victims of sexual assault and rape. I recently read an article in the telegraph about an Indian teenage rape victim, who was allegedly sexually assaulted a second time while in hospital receiving treatment for the original attack.

Headlines about sexual abuse and rape aren’t a rarity anymore. Few of the incidents catch more public attention and go viral but the majority remains untold and is hidden far away from the public. Blaming victim’s is another common behavior in our society. As soon as we talk about an incident the first few statements will be like:

“Victim was not appropriately dressed!”

”Something like this will never happen to someone from a good family!”

“Victim must have provoked them!”

Victims are silenced by a process that heaps shame, fear and guilt on them. The demoralizing experience is not alien to victims in India, who choose to speak out against sexual attacks.

Sexual violence is not only taking place in India. Since I am an Indian my focus is automatically set to “on what’s happening in India.” According to WHO recent global prevalence figures indicate that about 1 in 3 (35%) of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime.

Being a victim of any kind of crime can be frightening and upsetting. However, rape and sexual assault are particularly distressing crimes for the victim and the effects can last for a long time.

Let’s take action to help those instead of pointing fingers at them. Donate whatever you can to a nonprofit organization of your trust. Each and every penny counts. My personal choice is this project, which is started by Smita Sharma. She has started a Kickstarter page, where she is raising funds for two groups, including one based in London, which work in the community educating people to make people aware about sexual violence. There are many other nonprofit organizations worldwide, which helps victims to build a life after. Donating money is not the only way to help. If you know anyone from your circle, then be there for that person. Accompany the victim in their daily activities and highlight to them various institution where they can avail professional help. If needed raise your voice for them and protect them.

So don’t hesitate and let’s try to make the world a better place; You and I, we are the ones who can make this change!

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From Being Catfished to Real Chat with a Script Writer …

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After watching the movie Rockstar, I spent some time to know more about the cast and crew. It was just matter of time, that my browser history was filled with, Wikipedia entries, YouTube interviews and Facebook pages of the director VKP and the lead actor Siddarth Menon. I felt really bad for not knowing that Siddarth Menon is a famous singer from India. A  very talented musician with a mesmerising voice, who has a huge fan base and girls in India are going ga-ga over him. He reminded me a little bit of Justin Timberlake.  He is a member of a music band called Thaikudam Bridge and I pretty much love their music.

Few minutes of browsing, I ended up sending pms and friend requests to VKP sir, Rajashree Balaram and Siddarth Menon. It was a spontaneous reaction, like a fire and forget event. For my surprise a few minutes later I received a reply from Siddarth Menon. OMG… I was jumping up and down; He started texting me and then to top it all, he called me via FB messenger. OH GOSH … I couldn’t believe it. The first question I asked him was: “Why are you calling me? You are supposed to be busy”.  With a gentle laugh he  replied: “I never disappoint my fans”. Somehow an inner voice was telling that this guy is fake. To verify the authenticity with whom I am talking to, I asked him to sing a song! So he sang! I was spellbound!! End of the day I was thrilled and unable to believe that this happened to me.

Next day my sleep was disrupted by the annoying noise of FB notifications. Are you familiar with the feeling, when you wake up and you just want to smash/destroy your Alarm/Mobile phone? knowing very well it was you yourself, who forgot about the mute function? Flushed with anger I checked my mobile and guess what, it was his messages which woke me up.  This time he gave me his private number and asked me to add him on WhatsApp. How could I reject this nice gesture, right? By the way in the meantime all my anger just melted away. Thank God it was a weekend because on that day we talked a lot. About the band, music and how he ended up accepting the offer. During the entire conversation he was sharing personal information with me. I was a teeny tiny bit leery. After 2 weeks of small talk here & there, he succeed in convincing me that he is real. One day he told me that Thaikudam Bridge is going to Sharjah for a program. On that exact same day I saw a FB update about another program conducted by the same Band in India. From that point onwards the hide and seek game started. I insisted on having a video chat, which he refused due to some citing security issues. The other time I asked him for a selfie. A Selfie, which he has to take with his left hand and the index finger of his right hand should touch the left side of the nose 🙂 Oh well… I presume the poor guy researched online for it. 4 days later he admitted he was fake!

I hate being lied to and can’t understand why people are creating fake accounts. Look at this guy, what did he get out of this? NOTHING! What was he hoping to get out of this conversation?  The disturbing fact is that his fake account is pretty active and number of his friends are increasing day by day. I reported it to the real Siddarth Menon  (who I think) as well as to Facebook (How do I report a fake account?).

Now to the pleasant part. One day, completely out of the blue I received a reply from Rajashree Balaram and yes as you guessed it correctly, I was literally jumping around. She is such a nice person. Extremely  friendly and humble. During our small conversation, I told her about the above mentioned incident and she said to me that she will convey my message to VKP sir and Siddarth Menon. That’s so sweet of her, right?  Anyways I am eagerly waiting for her next work in a way I am waiting for the next season of Game of Thrones.

I pretty much enjoyed the whole experience and who knows may be one day I might talk to the real Siddarth Menon 😉

On this note I wish you all a wonderful day!

Xoxo

It’s all about YOU!

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It’s been a really long time since my last blog. A lot happened in the meantime which I might mention here on the blog one day. Hope all of you had a wonderful start. Jan is almost gone and how are you guys keeping up with your New year’s resolutions?

I have started this  year full of energy and excitement, determined to enjoy each and every day. Do things which would make me happy, experiment a bit and basically not worry about what others think about me.

So ….

  • If you think you are fat and unfit then lose weight, change ur diet and exercise more.
  • If you are unsatisfied with your job, then go and find another job
  • If you are bad in managing ur money then learn how to control ur expense
  • If you want to be a model/ singer/actor then go and explore ur options
  • If you love to travel then DO it.

Keep in mind that you are doing something which YOU want to do, NOT because you want to please someone else (parents, friends, children, coworkers, society …).

In my entire life I never felt this much of positive energy. I got inspired by the first movie I watched this year. Like most of us, I was also very tired on the 1st of Jan, so decided to stay home and chill.

After little bit browsing  and checking FB,  I ended up on an online movie portal and  chose  the latest Malayalam movie they uploaded. Malayalam is a language spoken in India to be precise in Kerala.  Watching  movies online gives me a guilty conscience, but sometimes you don’t have any other choice if you are abroad.

Yes, yes and yes … I know you are waiting to hear the name of the movie. The movie is called Rockstar.  If you understand Malayalam then you have  to watch it. I have  never ever seen a Malayalam movie like this. The movie is about a young independent woman and a young musician.  Oh well.. I know what you are thinking now and can imagine how you are rolling your eyes… A man sees a woman, they fall in love, jumping around trees in the alps, singing and dancing Benny Lava style and live happily ever after.  Sorry guys, I have to disappoint you. It is a romantic story which portrays very deep and intense emotional drama. The real star of this movie is the Story itself.  I loved each and every dialogue in this movie. My favorite dialogue is when Eva responds in a conversation to her mum and maid: You don’t have to get married to have children. It reminded me a conversation between my mum and me.

The script writer Rajashree Balaram beautifully captured the independent thoughts of today’s spinster professionals. The continuous fight with themselves to be independent,  to be different than the older generation, the confidence to express to the world what they think and confronting the conflict between fact-based  judgments and moral values.

Such a brilliant story in the hands of, one of the most renowned directors in the industry, VKP sir, it  certainly  created magic on the screen.

After watching this movie, I was so excited and decided to pm (private message) VKP sir, Siddarth Menon and Rajashree Balaram. The experience I made there,  will  be summarized  in a separate blog because a lot happened there.  Got catfishes,  had a real small chat …

End of the day watching this movie inspired me to set goals for this year. My New Year’s resolution is very simple: enjoy the life to the fullest and not to be worried about others.

I even came up with a nice romantic story. A good friend of mine and me even thought about filming it, me in the lead role. HAHAHA…. all my friends who are reading this, is most probably ROLFing. Yeah me in a Movie ***@@@@???!!!!

On this note I wish you all a very Happy New Year.

Xoxo

The Holy Cow – #BeefBan in India

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Last Friday after work I went to an Indian family who lives across the road, joining other friends who were also invited. During the evening we covered a lot of topics. They started to talk about the Beef Ban in India. My contribution to this was: “I too saw the FB posts. It is really funny and I admire the creative mind behind it.”  All of sudden everyone stopped talking and there was a weird silence in the room, everyone was staring at me. I broke the silence by asking them: ”it’s just a joke, right? No one was really killed, right?” Apparently it was not a joke.

I don’t want to mention any names or take sides. This blog is  about the frustration and disappointment of a young Indian, of origin.

In the past few months, political parties are abusing each other and taking decisions on what one should eat. Everyone has given ridiculous  statements about consuming beef. The intolerant society even ended up murdering an innocent man who was blamed for eating BEEF, which by the way turned out to be false after the investigation. In other words the current Indian politics are killing its own people.  Keep in mind that we are not talking about a country/state governed by a dictatorship. On the contrary, we are talking about the biggest democratic country on the earth. 

Government of an Indian State banned beef citing, it is hurting the religious sentiments of the Hindu community. Seriously guys…are you kidding me???!!!  Does the Hindu community feel better after a man was killed?  How would the Hindu community feel, If they were forced to eat beef somewhere else in the world?  I don’t believe the community or a common man’s religious spirit is hurt when others consume beef.  Everyone is entitled to practice their own religion and has the rights to decide on what to eat or not. I think the politicians are using this to cover something else, much bigger. Who knows  what they really want.

Abandoned cattle is a common thing in India and people don’t think 2s before hitting a cow found in the middle of the road.  A lot of cows die because of eating  filthy waste (plastic bags, etc.). How about introducing a government policy to keep them safe?  How is this ban going to protect the Holy Cows?

You murdered  a man because you assumed  he consumed  “holy cow” (beef).  You go to temple and worship  Goddesses, but as soon as you see one in front  of you, you just rape her to death. A Nation which  worships Cow, is willing to go to any extend to protect the Holy Cow, what are you doing to protect the women, your goddesses? How many girls did you protect this year? How many  abuses were reported? Which actions did you take? Did you kill all the rapists?

While  browsing  I came across a very interesting blog.  Where the blogger’s friend,  a Secret Advisor(SA) to Prime Minister (PM) of India, explains  the real reason for banning beef was to protect India and the WORLD from the water stress. According to the logic mentioned in that blog, the government of India is also going to ban butter, cheese, milk etc. Basically anything which is very water intensive.

If you want to read that blog please click here, it’s incredibly amusing.

Pretty in Pink: Rethinking Elle Woods

Brilliant! Loved your analysis, Love this movie, Loved your writing. I’m totally luving it.

The opening sequence of Legally Blonde is all pink products and blond hair. We cut between scenes of college and sorority life – a girl being catcalled by frat guys as she bikes past their house, girls in pink workout gear on treadmills, those Tiffany’s heart bracelets everywhere – and Reese Witherspoon’s silky hair and perfectly manicured hands surrounded by beauty-products and markers of traditionally recognizable, material femininity: Herbal Essences “True Color” Blonde hair-dye; nail polishes; dried roses on a stack of Cosmopolitans; a Homecoming Queen banner; a lovingly decorated “President” sorority paddle. Everything that could be pink is pink, from the bedspread, to the glitter pens used to write on a pink card in a pink envelope, to the doggy-sweater for Bruiser, Elle Wood’s chic Chihuahua.

Just four minutes into the movie, a salesgirl sizes Elle up the way many viewers – my thirteen year-old self included –…

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Jealous of trees, am I stupid?

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My Birthday is in 22 days and it frightens me. As a child I was looking forward to this day but now I am looking for possible ways to postpone the day.

My parents never failed to organize the perfect Birthday party for me and my brother. We received a lot of presents, mom always prepared our favorite dish and obviously new clothes. As a student I wanted to have one of those surprise parties, where your friends plan everything and u go to a club and simply get wasted. That never happened but my parents were still organizing the big one for me. It was really sweet of them. In the next phase of my life I was fancying about wakening up next to a handsome boyfriend, having breakfast in bed, red roses and a small present ideally from Tiffany&Co. Guess what, this never happened either. This could still happen because you never know when the Mr. Perfect is gonna knock on your door. Instead of fancying about this or being excited about what is going to happen next year, I am scared about getting old.

When I look around and compare myself with other women in my family & friend circle of my age group, I feel like they are having a very boring life. In other words I think something is wrong with me because I stand out from the crowed. Sometimes I even think, I shouldn’t be this active on social media because this is what teenagers and students do. I tried to convince myself saying: “Age is just a number and I am as old as I feel.” Oh well this didn’t work out the way I wanted. The increasing number of grey hair (by the way I have 10 of those shiny bitches now) and hair thinning are clear signs of getting Old.

Today I was enjoying the view from my office window. All the trees crowned in leaves, different shades of yellow and orange. I love autumn, its simply alluring. Since it was a bit windy, a lot of leaves were falling. All of sudden I was JEALOUS of trees. Trees lose their leaves like us losing our hair. But leaves come back in Spring/Summer, but there is no come back for our hair. This is so unfair 😦

Seriously folks, I am jealous of a Tree! Can you believe that? I mean a tree???!!!!. OMG what is happening to me? Am I crazy?

Are you afraid of your birthday? Do you have similar crazy thoughts like me?

Till then Keep Calm and Stay Healthy!

Bengal grams, Oats, Quinoa & Co

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M y last blog post was 25 days ago, where I shared my excitement about becoming an almost vegan. Now after 1 month of being sort of a vegan, I would love to share my experience  with you guys. First of all I never thought I will be able to follow it for such a long time. I never did any sort of fasting before and never avoided non veg. Chicken was an inevitable part of my meal, couldn’t even imagine life without chicken. It may sound a bit weird but I always had some sort of chicken almost every day.

I haven’t visited my aunt for months, so yesterday I paid her a visit. As soon I entered her house the appetizing smell of perfectly spiced, delicious, mouthwatering chicken curry welcomed me. Oh boy, what am I going to do? I couldn’t resist the smell. So I decided to have chicken curry and fried rice for lunch, after all it’s just this one time I thought. Trust me guys, I couldn’t wait to mix  fried rice with the thick gravy and enjoy the perfect symphony of spices in my mouth. You won’t believe what happened next . As soon as I saw the chicken piece on my plate my appetite was gone. I simply couldn’t bite into the piece of meat. I was shocked and surprised at the same time. End of the day I just had rice with some vegetables. I was so proud of myself and said myself:  “You passed the toughest test, very well done my dear“.

You might be wondering what a lazy person like me eats these days. Like I mentioned in my last blog (Almost a Vegan), started with quinoa… now pleased to add almond mil, oats and Bengal grams. I am getting good in preparing vegan food, still have to go long way. Once I master few recipes, I will definitely make a  vlog about it.

Transitioning to  a vegan is difficult. Each time if I mention I am a vegan, people raise their eye brows, or make jokes about. This weekend a friend of mine told me something like this. “Now it’s anyways too late. You are not going to look better”.  I know he meant it in a funny way and his intention was not to hurt me.  Most of the time you find less support from people around you and because of that your social life might suffer a little bit. But hey , all you need is a strong will power and then everything is possible. End of the day it’s your life, it’s your body and YOU decide what you want to do.

Becoming a vegan means to me  eat clean,  consuming minimally processed  food, increasing fiber consumption and final adding more fresh fruits and vegetables to my regular diet. By doing so my digestion is perfection which means no bloating and I feel more energized during the day. And I feel young, fresh and vibrant. Oh well I think that’s coupled with my fear of aging and my birthday is in 28 days.  Most probably I am trying to convince myself no matter what I am doing, it’s good for staying young.  Anyways I hope you guys  are not worried about grey hair and wrinkles.

Till then Keep Calm and Stay Healthy!

XoXo